When I am depressed, the last thing I want to do is step outside the house. Unfortunately, the reality of it is that I must go out at least twice a week day to take my daughter to and from school. Then there is the groceries, and various things that are needed to be bought from the shops. So out the door I go. But like any good soldier preparing for battle (which leaving the house sometimes feels like) I arm myself the best way I know how.
I know God accepts us just the way we are, but the rest of the world doesn’t always see past the crusty exterior and the bitterness we exude when we are not feeling up to par. For me, looking good is a way to help me feel better. Makeup is not a replacement for happiness, at best it is camouflage, and in reality it is a bit of therapy and time to prepare myself and my anxiety for facing the world outside.
I admit I am a bit of a fashionista. I know my style, and I have curated my wardrobe to make dressing easier. Yet, as an American woman in her late 30’s, I am to vain to just walk out the door. So like my wardrobe, I have curated my makeup and hair in similar fashion to make it easier to go out the door looking presentable. I am also paranoid someone might see on the outside just how horrible I truly feel on the inside. So I prepare my mask and face the battle.
Step 1: Wash
No, I don’t always wash my hair, and it’s not good to wash it every day. I aim for twice a week, that’s not to much to ask for. I daily wash my body and face, no matter how I feel. I will admit, sometimes I just wash my face if I don’t have the energy to step into a bath or shower. (I love baths when I’m depressed!). But when you are down, at least try to do this step.
Step 2: Moisturise
Yes, this seems like a lot to do already, but trust me on this! When we are depressed our skin suffers and it is noticeable. Many medications dry our skin, and others like lithium require us to drink more water. So slathering your body and face with something moisturising helps to make you feel more human. I also find keeping my face hydrated helps me from looking aged which always seems to happen when I am depressed.
Step 3: Make-Up
Now you are ready to “face” the day. Start by collecting your tools and prep the warpaint.
- BB or CC cream
- Skunk brush or Sponge applicator
- Creme blush
- Eyelash curler
- Eyebrow pencil (optional)
I love my CC cream! BB creams are great, they are moisturiser and foundation, but being almost 40 I need a bit more coverage. Because your skin is most likely dry already, you won’t need powder, but add it if you do. You can use your hand to apply, but that is messy, and I prefer to use a skunk brush to buff on the CC cream like I would my normal foundation.
Creme blush is easily applied with your fingers, and does wonders for giving some life back into your face. The mascara helps give definition to your eyes, and using a lash curler is an amazing way to help your eyes stand out. Lip colour just completes the look.
If you have sparse eyebrows or very light colour, I highly recommend a good eyebrow pencil or powder. But this is not necessary, its just nice. You can also try highlighting and contouring the face to give dimension and life. I also like to add a little light shimmer to the eyelid. You can see the contouring and highlighting in my photo above, and yes, I am currently depressed.
Keep it simple, don’t use anything that requires to much precision like a liquid black eyeliner!! If you have to go out, just remember to keep it simple and you can’t go wrong!
I will discuss dressing and hairstyling in another post, cause that’s just a whole other can of worms!